Resource Sheet 8 - Clues for Identification of In Utero Wounds
(from John and Paula Sandford, Healing the Wounded Spirit, pages 40-42)
The condition in utero |
Commonly observed patterns of attitude and behaviour after birth |
Child is not wanted |
Striving, performance orientation, trying to earn the right to be, inordinate desire to please (or the opposite, rejecting before he can be rejected), tension, apologising, anger, wishing death, frequent illness, problems with bonding, refusing affection (or having insatiable desire for affection) |
Child is conceived out of wedlock |
Having deep sense of shame, lack of belonging |
Parents face a bad time financially |
Believing, "I'm a burden." |
Parents are too young, not ready |
Believing, "I'm an intrusion." |
Mother has poor health |
Guilt for being; child may take emotional responsibilities for mother |
Child being formed is what one or both parents consider to be the wrong sex |
Sexual identification problems, sometimes one of the causes of homosexuality, striving to please to be what the parents want, futility, having a defeatist attitude, "I was wrong from the beginning." |
This child follows other conceptions that were lost |
Being over-serious, over-achieving, striving, trying to make up for the loss, anger at being a "replacement", not getting to be "me" |
Mother has inordinate fear of delivery |
Fear, insecurity, fear of childbirth |
Fighting in the home |
Nervousness, uptightness, fear, jumpiness, jumping in to control a discussion when differences of opinion emerge, feeling guilty: "I'm the reason for the quarrel", parental inversion: taking emotional responsibility for the parents |
Father dies or leaves |
Guilt, self-blame, anger, bitter-root expectation to be abandoned, inordinate hunger to find that one, having a death wish, depression |
Mother loses a loved one and is consumed by grief |
Deep sadness, depression, having a death wish, fear of death, loneliness, imagining "no support for me; I will have to depend on myself." |
Unwholesome sexual relations, father's approaches to mother are insensitive or violent - or more than one sexual partner |
Aversion to sex, fear of male organ, general unhealthy attitude |
Mother is afraid of gaining too much weight, does not eat properly |
Insatiable hunger, anger |
Mother a heavy smoker |
Predisposition to severe anxiety |
Mother consumes too much caffeine |
Baby likely to have poor muscle tone and low activity level |
Mother consumes alcohol |
More than the chemical effect, the baby absorbs the negative feelings which caused the mother to drink. Breech delivery. Higher risk of having learning problems |
Unusually painful delivery |
Anger, lacking acceptable outlet, having ulcers, depression |
Relatively normal delivery |
Fury if pain, mother's or child's, seems to confirm rejection or ambivalence in utero |
Induced labour |
Can affect mother-child bonding, can result in masochistic personality or sexual perversion |
C-section |
Intense craving for all kinds of physical contact, trouble with concept of space, clumsiness |
Cord around neck |
Throat-related problems, swallowing, speech impediments, anti-social or criminal behaviour |
Discerning of a Slumbering Spirit
(from Healing the Wounded Spirit, p. 136)
When you are in a worship service or a prayer meeting, do you feel the anointing of God flowing over you and through you, or do you only know He is there by faith?
When you have private devotions, do you enter into His presence? Can you abide in His presence? When you read the Bible, do the words leap with meaning off the page at times? Or does Bible reading run dry?
Do you ever hear the Lord or have spiritual dreams or visions? Does God talk to you?
When you are in a conversation, do you enter in and feel what the other person feels, or do you have to figure out with your mind what to say?
Are you a creative person? Do you have new ideas? Or do you always have to follow the manual?
Have you experienced a glory in marital sex in which you feel your mate's spirit flowing into yours?
Does your conscience warn you strongly before you do anything, and keep you out of trouble, or only work by remorse afterwards?
Discerning of an Imprisoned Spirit
(from Healing the Wounded Spirit, pp. 154,155)
Do you feel hollow, empty and vacant, like something is missing?
Do you ever feel deeply lonely, alone, way off somewhere, even in the middle of a crowd?
Do you ever feel persecuted, tormented or afflicted when on the surface no one is bothering you? (Demonic spirits do torment the spirits of captive people, and they feel it like a subcurrent river of pain without knowing what it is.)
Do you suffer from the sense that there are talents and powers and energies in you which you can't reach, as though they are locked away from you?
Do you ever feel desperate and lost and futile inside when on the surface everything seems to be going fine?
Do ever feel like trouble and danger are all around you, when in fact everything and everyone around you is perfectly safe?
Do you ever have unaccountable inner rages? Do you get furiously angry at something, when actually there is nothing to be angry at? (The spirits of imprisoned people rage against the chains which bind them.)
Do you have trouble staying awake at services which are quite lively and exciting? Just when the pastor is preaching a really good sermon, so you find it difficult to keep your eyes open? (Satan is a hypnotist.)
If we are still are not certain, or want other corroboration, we may ask a few other questions, such as:
Do you, or did you, ever suffer vertigo (dizziness)? In the presence of the power of the Lord is a worship service, have you felt weak or dizzy? (We do not know why this phenomenon occurs, but it is common for imprisoned people to break out in a cold sweat and/or become dizzy when others feel uplifted, warmed and joyous under the Lord's anointing. Perhaps by empathy they feel the nausea of their captors' pain in the presence of Jesus, but we do not know.)
Have you ever suffered any dyslexia? (Imprisoned people commonly but not always have had some degree of dyslexia in childhood, or currently suffer from it.)
In the midst of a powerful time of worship, do you feel at peace and joyous, or nervous and unaccountably upset? Do you feel agitated, or calmed, when others around you pray and thank Him for being present? (Perhaps this reaction happens because like blind Bartimaeus they want to call out all the louder when Jesus passes close by (Mark 10:46-52) and/or perhaps their demonic captors are made nervous and fearful by His presence and they feel it.)
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